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Good for a Girl: A Woman Running in a Man's World

Lauren Fleshman, 2023

An eighth grader beats every boy in school until one spring one of them beats her by a whole minute. That is how Lauren Fleshman, a future five-time NCAA champion, first learns that she is a girl in a sport designed for men. It is a story of starving for a “race weight”, of broken bones and harsh contracts, and of how to build sport around women.

Who it is for

For anyone who plays a sport, coaches, or is raising a daughter who competes. And for everyone who has ever judged themselves by the number on the scale.

When you realize failing doesn't make you a failure, you give yourself permission to try all sorts of things.

The spring Rocky got faster

Every week in PE, eighth grader Lauren Fleshman ran a mile around the schoolyard and came in first, ahead of the girls and the boys alike. One spring her name came second on the list of the best: a boy named Rocky had run almost a minute faster. Her father explained it briefly: Rocky had hit puberty.

That day Lauren understood for the first time that she was a girl. Then came five titles in the NCAA college league, two US national titles, a contract with Nike and injuries nobody talks about on TV. Today she coaches professional women runners.

The main idea of her book is this. The sport women fought to get into was built by men for male bodies. Equality came to mean the right to get what men have, in the way men have it. In Fleshman's view, this makes everything that is different about the female body look like a defect. Ahead are four turning points in her life, and each one reveals one side of this trap.

A plateau mistaken for failure

In her second year at Stanford, Lauren's body began to change: her breasts grew, her hips filled out. Her studies were going better than ever, but on the track the pace was getting harder and harder. At the dress rehearsal for the national championship she finished only in the seventies, though a year earlier she had been fifth. Coach Vin Lananna brought up her weight and only asked her not to do anything stupid. Nobody explained how to lose weight without harm.

Fleshman describes a mechanism she didn't know about back then. Between eighteen and twenty-two, young men are at their testosterone peak, and their results rise almost in a straight line. In those years the female body keeps maturing: estrogen holds on to more fat and fluid, and weight fluctuates with the cycle. That is why a plateau or dip at this age is normal. The author calls it the female performance wave. For many women runners, she says, their best years begin closer to twenty-five.

But back then the message was different. The women's team was given a lecture about integrity: the men win because they do what they say they are going to do. Now Fleshman believes the wrong people were blamed. Starving and injuries look like personal choices, but they are choices made inside an environment women didn't create. A dip is worth living through as a stage, not fixing as a breakdown.

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About the author

Lauren Fleshman is among the most decorated American distance runners: five NCAA titles at Stanford and two national championship titles. Today she coaches professional women runners and works with the women's sports brand Oiselle.

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Terms from the book

  • Rocky
  • Stanford
  • Estrogen
  • Plateau
  • NCAA: The National Collegiate Athletic Association in the United States. It runs college championships, including in running.
  • Nike: An American maker of sportswear and athletic shoes. Fleshman competed under contract with it for many years.
  • Lananna: Vin Lananna, an American running coach. He ran Stanford's track program and was Fleshman's head coach for a long time.
  • Female performance wave: The author's image, not a scientific term: results rise, then dip or plateau, then rise again. The author links this wave to the maturing of the female body.
  • Radcliffe: Paula Radcliffe, a British long-distance runner, world champion and former world record holder in the marathon.
  • Olympic standard: The time a runner has to achieve during the season to be eligible for the Olympics.
  • Stress reaction: An early stage of fatigue damage to a bone: there is no fracture yet, but the bone can't cope with the load.
  • RED-S: Relative energy deficiency in sport. The International Olympic Committee introduced the concept in 2014. It describes a state in which the body doesn't have enough energy for training and life, and hormones, bones, immunity and metabolism suffer as a result.
  • Menstrual cycle: The monthly hormonal cycle of the female body. The author sees it as an important signal of an athlete's health.
  • Objectify Me: A 2007 Nike ad campaign featuring Fleshman. The name plays on the word “objectify”, meaning to see a person as an object to be looked at.
  • Bergesen: Sally Bergesen, the founder and head of the women's running apparel brand Oiselle.
  • Oiselle: An American brand of running apparel for women, based in Seattle. The name is French for a female bird.
  • Littlewing: A professional women's running team in Bend, Oregon, coached by Fleshman.
  • Race weight: An expression from the running world: the weight at which a runner supposedly runs fastest. Fleshman considers the very idea dangerous for young women runners.

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