Term
Ego
In Tolle's book this isn't arrogance but a false “I”: a self-image put together from thoughts, things, roles and grievances that a person mistakes for who they are. It's the author's own language, not a psychological term.
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle
Explained in
- A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle
- The Revolution of Hope: Toward a Humanized Technology, Erich Fromm
In Fromm, this is not Freud’s term but the everyday “ego”: experiencing yourself as a thing you own, along with your body, money, position and problems.
- King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, Robert Moore, Douglas Gillette
A person’s conscious self. In the authors’ model, it manages archetypal energies but does not own them.
- The Like Switch, Jack Schafer, Marvin Karlins
Here: a person's focus on themselves, their image and the impression they make.
- Read People Like a Book: How to Analyze, Understand, and Predict People's Emotions, Thoughts, Intentions, and Behaviors, Patrick King
Here: a person's self-image, pride and self-esteem, which they try to protect.
- How to Be an Adult in Relationships, David Richo
Here: a person's picture of themselves. Richo distinguishes a healthy ego, which helps you live, from a neurotic one, which lives in fear and demands control and special rights.
- Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and It's All Small Stuff, Richard Carlson
Here, in Carlson's words, the part of us that wants to be seen, heard and thought special, sometimes at someone else's expense.
- Ego Is the Enemy, Ryan Holiday
In Holiday’s understanding, an unhealthy belief in your own importance: arrogance and self-centered ambition. The author’s framework rather than a psychological term.
- Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion, George J. Thompson, Jerry B. Jenkins
A sense of self-importance that makes you take rudeness personally and turns a work conversation into a matter of honor.