Term
Projection
Placing onto another person your own feelings, expectations or traits that you do not notice in yourself.
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
Explained in
- Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
- Read People Like a Book: How to Analyze, Understand, and Predict People's Emotions, Thoughts, Intentions, and Behaviors, Patrick King
Unconsciously attributing your own traits or feelings to other people. King writes about shadow projection: a person sees in others what they won't admit in themselves.
- Stop Checking Your Likes, Susie Moore
When a person attributes their own feelings and fears to others. A critic often sees in you what they haven't accepted in themselves.
- Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
A psychological mechanism in which an unbearable feeling of one's own is attributed to another person. A concept from psychoanalysis; the authors use it as an explanatory model.
- Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray
assuming your partner thinks and feels exactly the way you do, and expecting them to act on that basis